Ways Of Getting My Ex Back: Secrets To Making Up.
January 13, 2010 • Category : Relationships
If your relationship has just broken up and you still love your ex, you might well be obsessed by such thoughts as: 'What can I do? What are the ways of getting my ex back?' There is nothing more painful than unrequited love, especially if you still want to be with your partner.
You plunge into dejection and despair suffering so much hurt and the whole gamut of emotional turmoil-feeling dumped, rejected, unworthy. Nothing really prepares you for this. In fact it is very hard just to function in normal daily living and activities-getting out of bed, going to work.
Apart from the huge blow to your self esteem, you cannot seem to get the thought of wanting to be back with your ex off your mind. There is no clear space in your head to do any thinking. All you experience is the longing and the pain. Your thoughts are focussed on 'How can I get my ex back? What are some of the ways of getting my ex back?'
Well so often in life nothing really prepares you for entering or working at a relationship. At times of a breakdown we can only listen to those who have gone before and who are willing to give us the benefit of their experience.
Such ideas and advice include:
Grieve by all means but not to the extent that you shut out everything else.
Make time to see the positive things you brought into the relationship. Give yourself credit for the good in you. I am really talking here about building up your self esteem. If you cannot see yourself as worthy then how can you expect your ex to see you as worthy?
Buy some Guided Meditation or Visualisation CDs to help you get through this difficult time. They will help you find a calm space within where you can work on your self esteem. Alternatively there are often groups in the community where this activity is practised.
This next one is a don't. Don't crowd your ex, harassing them with pleading phone calls or by other modes of communication. Give them the space they obviously need.
Now look as objectively as you can to determine the cause of the relationship breakdown. Do not apportion blame. Just don't go there. It will fix nothing. Remember the aim of this exercise is to see what went wrong so you can begin to heal the rift.
Take your mind off everything at times by involving yourself in some activity-learn to play Bridge. That certainly takes your whole mind. There are other pursuits which you can use to do this as well. Do something socially. This will let your body chemistry recuperate to some extent.
Read some self help books and try and apply what they are teaching. Some of these will help you lay out a strategy to attain your goal of making up with your ex.
When practical steps such as these are taken and combined with self help methods you have just more than doubled your chances of getting back with your ex and making the relationship work.
By:
Dorothy North
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